Scary stories from a lovely place
I need sleep. A lot please. Unbroken preferably. Lately I sleep from about about 10pm until midnight, then from midnight to 5am, then from 5am to 7am. If it’s not that good I get up a few other times in the night as well. During the day I might nap for 15 minutes here or there, but never here and there. I’m starting to look like the bag lady.
To try and get my sweet Silas to sleep for longer snatches during the day I’m trying to implement one of those horrible things called a ‘routine’. Up until now I’ve been a fly-by-night, slap-dash, do-whatever kind of parent, which is also how I go about most of life. Now I want Silas to sleep for longer than 20 minutes during the day so that I can have longer than that time in peace and unsquirmyness. I don’t know how it’s going to work though. So I’m starting by keeping a record of when he usually does sleep and after a week or so of that I will try and structure my life around him so that he can get longer sleep.
There are generally two school’s of thought when it comes to parenting. Well, that’s a massive generalisation. But from what I’ve read there’s a scale of attachment vs independence that each book/author/sage will place themselves somewhere along. At the attachment end of the scale is co-sleeping, baby-wearing, exclusively breastfeeding, feeding to sleep, feeding to comfort, feeding for fun, feeding for any reason, being with the baby while he or she is crying and not forcing too much of a schedule too early on. At the other end is the opposite of all those things and trying to get the baby to sleep by independent methods like letting them cry until they are exhausted (usually called ‘cry it out’ or the more politically correct ‘controlled crying’), using pacifiers instead of breasts for comfort and getting into a routine early. The first school claim that while their methods are very intense for the parent (read: the mother) they lead to children who are more emotionally capable and therefore able to be more truly independent later on. The second encourage training the baby to be independent right from the get go and not answering to their every cry for fear of spoiling them.
I’m more towards the attachment end, but I waver to and fro. I don’t know which is right. Both claim they are. Both have irrefutable evidence proving their way. Both have irrefutable evidence disproving the other way. This is the annoying thing. Baby stuff is all so damn relative.
Anyway. I need more sleep.